Where appropriate, children can share their thoughts with a specially trained mediator, so their views can help shape the arrangements that affect them.
Child-inclusive mediation gives children and young people the chance to talk privately with a mediator about how they feel and what matters to them. It is not about asking a child to choose between parents, and children are never asked to make decisions.
The Family Mediation Council’s Code of Practice says that children aged 10 and above should be offered the opportunity to have their voices heard directly. Younger children may also take part, depending on their age and understanding. Taking part is always voluntary for your child.
Step one is agreeing, as parents in mediation, that your child should be invited to speak with a mediator.
Step two is an invitation to your child, explaining what the meeting is for. Your child can choose not to take part.
Step three is a relaxed, private meeting between your child and the mediator, where they agree together what, if anything, will be shared with you.
Step four is a feedback session with both parents, so your child’s views can inform the decisions you make together.
Children often notice far more than parents realise during a separation. Being listened to can help them feel included, and hearing their perspective can help parents make arrangements that genuinely work for the whole family.
Your mediator will only meet your child if it is safe and appropriate, and will always put your child’s wellbeing first. You remain fully responsible for the decisions you reach together as parents.
Child-inclusive mediation takes place as part of mediation about child arrangements, so the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme may contribute up to £500, subject to eligibility, and Legal Aid may cover the cost if you qualify. Please ask us about the fee for the meeting with your child. Our standard fees are listed below:
* all prices are excluding VAT
The Family Mediation Council’s Code of Practice says children aged 10 and above should be offered the chance to have their voices heard. Younger children may also be included, depending on their age and understanding.
No. Taking part is always voluntary. Your child will be invited, and they can say no without any pressure.
No. Your child will never be asked to choose between parents or to make decisions. The meeting is a chance for them to share how they feel, and parents always remain responsible for the decisions.
Your mediator agrees with your child what, if anything, will be passed on to you. The usual exceptions apply where there is any concern about a child’s safety.
Yes. Both parents need to agree that their child should be invited before the mediator makes contact.
Call us free on 0800 669 6109. We will start with your MIAMs, and talk through with you whether child-inclusive mediation is right for your family.
Not sure what to do next? Speak to our friendly team about your situation, explore your options and discover how family mediation could help.
